Do not indulge in arguments and disputes; one who clamours aloud has not grasped the Truth, believe Me! Silence is the only language of the realised. Practice moderation in speech; that will help you in many ways. It will develop Prema, for most misunderstandings and factions arise out of carelessly spoken words. When the foot slips, the wound can be healed; but when the tongue slips, the wound it causes in the heart of another will fester for life. The tongue is liable to four big errors: uttering falsehood, scandalising, finding fault with others and excessive talk. These must be avoided if there must be peace for the individual and society. The bond of brotherhood will be tightened if people speak less and speak sweet. That is why silence (mounam) was prescribed as a vow for spiritual aspirants by scriptures. As spiritual aspirants in various stages of the road, this discipline will be very valuable for you.
A man who had four wives happened to go to Mumbai on some work. From there, he wrote to all of them that he was prepared to bring home whatever each of them wanted. The first wife asked for some nice tonics for her health, as well as rugs and woollen clothing to be of service whenever she fell ill. The second wife wanted some sarees of the latest style, jewellery of the Mumbai type and such other sundry decorative stuff. The third asked him to select for her some religious books like the Jnaneshwari, abhangs, etc. available in Mumbai book-shops, as well as pictures of Pandharinath, Bhavani and Sai Baba. The fourth wife had no list at all; she simply wrote, "If you return soon and safe, that is enough for me." The others got big packets containing whatever they had asked for, but the last one got his love. God gives you whatever you pray for; so think well and discriminate clearly before you pray and ask.
The first prerequisite for leading a spiritual life is Faith. Your faith must stand ridicule of the ignorant, cavilling by the worldly, and laughter of the low-minded. When someone ridicules, ask yourself, 'Are they ridiculing my body? Well, that's fine, for, I need to escape this body attachment anyway. Are they ridiculing theAtma? That is impossible, for the Atma is beyond words or thoughts, unaffected by praise or blame.' Second: Do not worry about ups and downs, loss or gain, or joy or grief. You yourself create the ups and downs, therefore you can straighten them as well. You crave for a thing and when you get it, you call it joy; when you don't, you call it grief. Cut off craving, and there will be no more swinging from joy to grief. Third: Rationalise and be convinced of the truth that All is Divine (Sarvam Brahmamayam). Fourth and final: Be always steady in spiritual practice until you reach the goal.
We either think of the past or the future and ruin the present. Past is past, forget it. The past which is dead and gone, is useless. Work for your progress by living in the present, and in the moment. Future does not always bring happiness. And so far as the past is concerned, how much happiness have you experienced in it? Therefore, live happily in the present. What should we do in the present? Follow this maxim: Less luggage more comfort makes travel a pleasure. We should not worry about the past at all. Thinking about the past will not do any good to us. Therefore we should lead our life in the present and achieve all-round progress.